In the 4th and final part of How to be a Better-Looking Guy, we’re going to talk about the next most important issue with your body shape:
And here are a few examples of muscles:
Muscle is attractive on guys. Now as we already talked about, different people have different opinions on how much muscle is ideal.
Some guys want the bodybuilder look. And some guys literally want to pack as much muscle as they can on their body. But most women prefer guys who are more muscular/slender over guys who are huge & beefy.
The Ideal Physique For A Man?
I’d say that overall, you’ll have the best mass-appeal attractiveness if you have a decent amount of well-sculpted muscle, something along the lines of Brad Pitt in Fight Club:
A lot of guys talk about Brad Pitt in Fight Club being the ideal body to shoot for, and it’s a pretty good goal. See, he’s not too huge, but he has great overall muscle, big shoulders, slender waist, low body fat, abs, good muscle definition.
The thing about getting a body like this is…it can be tough. It takes some time. And that’s beyond the scope of this course.
(Although, if you are ambitious enough to go after a body like this, check out The Stronger+Leaner Guide to Getting RIPPED for programs that will completely transform your physique.)
How To Build A Fight Club Body
In general though, a body shape like this is made in 2 different places:
The lower part—the narrow hips and waist, and the six pack—those are made in the kitchen. You may have heard the phrase “abs are made in the kitchen.” Well, that’s 100% true. To lose body fat, your main weapon is NOT cardio (although cardio is nice). Your MAIN weapon—your main exercise—is eating less food. The best exercise you can do to lose weight is to push your plate away.
The second place where a body like this is made…is in the gym. And that’s where you make the broad shoulders, the big chest, and the strong arms.
So just to make it super-clear: if this is the ideal body shape for a man—broad shoulders and chest that tapers down to a narrow waist, and then goes straight through the legs…
The top portion of the V is made in the gym. That’s your shoulders, chest, and upper back.
And the middle portion, the abs, waist, and hips…is made in the kitchen—by eating less food.
And finally I just want to repeat one last time to drive the point home: the #1 way to lose weight is by EATING LESS. NOT by doing cadio.
Cardio is great, it’s good for you, and it does help you burn a little bit of calories, but it’s NOT the way to lose a lot of weight. I do cardio several times a week, but NOT as a way to lose weight. I do it for health and fitness reasons only.
How To Build A V-Shaped Torso
So, what about the top part of the V? What should you do, in the gym, to get those wide shoulders, chest, and upper back?
Well, there’s no 2 ways about it: to increase muscle, the #1 thing is, you need to lift weights. But don’t just go to the gym and do what you see other guys doing—90% of guys in the gym are, unfortunately, wasting their time. So the #2 thing is, you have to do the right exercises.
And to get that V-shaped torso, there are 3 main body parts you want to focus on:
- Your shoulders
- Your upper back
- Your chest
In that order.
And the reason I say “in that order” is because your shoulders are going to have the biggest impact on the top of your v. because they are, literally, the upper-most edges, right? Makes sense.
Your chest and your upper back are underneath that. And while most guys in the gym focus more on their chest…actually your upper back, including your lats (your latissimus dorsi muscles) contribute much more to a V shape than your chest does. Because your lats run along the side of your chest, and can really emphasize that V shape.
Here’s an example. We saw this guy before. Hopefully you can see what I mean about the lats, the back muscles, contributing a LOT to that V-shape…even more than big chest muscles will:
Workout To Build A V-Shaped Torso
Here’s an example upper-body workout that hits all those muscles:
- Barbell Overhead Press (3 sets of 5-8)
- Lateral Shoulder Raises (3 sets of 8-12)
- Pull-Ups or Chin-Ups (3 sets of 5-8, weighted if possible)
- Barbell Rows (3 sets of 5-8)
- Cable Rows (3 sets of 8-12)
- Barbell Incline Bench Press (3 sets of 5-8)
- Dumbbell or Cable Flies (3 sets of 8-12)
First, to get bigger shoulders: do an overhead press, with either a barbell or dumbbells. I recommend a barbell because you can lift more weight with a barbell, with help build more muscle mass.
Lateral shoulder raises aren’t going to help build as much mass because you can’t use as much weight, but they hit the very outermost muscle of your shoulders, called the lateral head, which is the muscle that more than any other gives you a broader-looking set of shoulders.
Next, to get a bigger upper back, do a combination of pull-ups and rows.
And again, those exercises are listed in order of preference. Pull-ups are your best choice, but barbell rows are also great. The cable pull machine is not as good, but can be a good secondary exercise.
Ideally, you’ll get to the point where you can do 12 or more pull-ups, and then you can start adding extra weight to your pull ups using a dip belt.
OK, and finally, your chest. To get a bigger, badder chest, do a barbell bench press and/or a barbell incline bench press. I recommend incline because it hits the top of your chest more, which fights against that man-boob look and gives you a sleeker-looking chest, sorta that “plate of armor” look.
And if you want a secondary, supporting exercise for your chest, do chest flies with a cable or dumbbells. I wouldn’t use a pec fly machine because those put a lot of stress on your shoulders, which can lead to an injury—and that would be bad news bears.
And I’ve added some general rep ranges here, too. In general I’d recommend sticking with lower reps for your heavy lifts, say 5-8 reps for overhead press, pull-ups, barbell rows, and bench press. For your supporting exercises, you can do slightly lower weight with higher reps of 8-12.
OK, so to recap, you get your V shaped body by:
- Losing weight
- Lifting weights (specifically: overhead press, pull-ups, and bench press)
How To Look More Muscular In A Few Minutes
And, I know I said this program is focused on looking good while you’re in clothes, but here’s one quick BONUS tip to help you look a little more buff & swole with your shirt off:
Get what’s known as a PUMP.
A “pump” is where you do an exercise enough times that the muscle starts to feel a little sore, and a little swollen, a little inflated and puffy, almost like it’s filling up like a balloon. The reason you get this feeling is because there’s a lot of blood flowing to the muscle.
The extra bloodflow that comes from getting a pump can help make your muscles temporarily look bigger and more defined. The effect won’t last forever, but if you’re…going to the beach or something, getting a pump can help make your muscles look a little bigger and more defined for all the ladies on the volleyball court.
So to get a pump, you would do something like this:
- 3 sets of push-ups (do as many as you can)
- 3 sets of shoulder raises with dumbbells
- 3 sets of cable pulls
And for all of these exercises, in order to get a pump, you’ll need to do more reps. So aim for 12-15 or so, while still using enough weight that you get that pump feeling near the end.
How To Look Taller
And I have just 1 more topic on the subject of your body shape, and that…is height. Now obviously you can’t change your height and you can’t really force your body to grow taller.
But the truth is, most women prefer taller guys. Now I’m about 5’11 and a half or 6′ tall, and I feel pretty lucky to be that. But if you’re even taller, like 6’2″ or so, that’s probably an attractiveness advantage. Again, it gets back to the whole idea of being strong and dominant, and being taller makes you look bigger, which lends to that strong appearance.
(If you’re a shorter guys, don’t feel bad—remember there’s a little bit of a trade off in that extra-tall guys are often also extra-skinny guys. So, tall guys have their own issues too.)
But, there’s one thing you can do to look a little taller, and that is to add a shoe lift to your shoes. You can get these on Amazon, they’re cheap, easy to install, and can increase your height by half an inch or more as long as you’re wearing your shoes. The choice is up to you, but if a little height would help you out, I think you owe it to yourself to at least give these a shot.
And finally, one last thing you can do to look taller is to have good posture. Good posture can make you look not only taller, but also stronger, leaner, more confident, more comfortable, more capable, more social, more dominant—posture has a huge effect on your appearance.
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